Comparison has been the theme of my life lately. But is it healthy? It’s so easy to fall into this trap when you’re constantly bombarded with streams of status updates, photos and surrounded by people that might be more successful than you. It’s so easy to quickly conclude that you don’t measure up.
As a wife and mom- I fall short daily. Others do it better than me. They cook healthier meals; their kids are better behaved. More fun, more patient, better at house cleaning, multitasking, balancing their life. The list goes on.
As a stationery designer- it’s also tempting to look at everyone else. See the work they are producing. To be amazed at how they do it all. When I focus on others- life gets overwhelming. Instead of just doing great things- I’m frozen with fear that I might not be good enough. I become like the apostle Peter- only he had enough faith to get out of the boat. I stand there, frozen, with a fear of failing before I even try. One of my favorite quotes from our pastor Tim Harris is “When you’re afraid, do the scary thing”. I just love that.
This weekend conversations with my family got me to really thinking about all the ways I compare myself on a daily basis. Then I felt God’s voice speaking into my heart in a new way one morning during my quiet time. I stumbled upon this verse in Galatians that I’ve probably read a number of times- but it stood out to me in a new way. It says, “Do your own work well, then you will have something to be proud of. Don’t compare yourselves to others. We each must carry our own load.”
The false guilt, waves of fear, the daily critique of my flaws- these things don’t seem to swallow me up when I fix my eyes on Christ and set my heart on all that He is. I can do only what I can do. When I am following God and what his plan is for me- I find perfect peace and contentment with my life and my role as a mom, wife, designer, etc. I’ve learned so much about myself this past month- but this lesson I have to remember daily. Don’t compare- if that means not looking at Facebook- then so be it. I must fix my eyes on Him.